Them Before Us is a ministry in Seattle that defends marriage as between one man and one woman. “Our first question on every topic should be, ‘What about the child?'” says President Katy Faust. “For years, we have insisted that children sacrifice for adults. That has to change. It’s time to put them before us.” Thus, the name “Them Before Us” means putting a child’s needs before adult desires. “Children are not a commodity,” declares their website. “They do not exist for the fulfillment of adults.”
Since its inception in 2018, central tenants animating Them Before Us include these beliefs:
• Men and women are uniquely different.
• Mothers offer a unique gift of feminine love into a child’s life that no man can give; and fathers also offer a unique gift of masculine love into a child’s life that no woman can give.
• Both unique gifts are essential for the healthy development of children, and so whenever possible, children deserve and have a need for their own mother and father.
The mission, vision, and goals of Them Before Us can be seen below:
In sum, Them Before Us rises to national prominence on two wings: the need and the right of every child to their father and mother. “You cannot legislate away a child’s longing for their mom and dad,” Katy points out. Kids need their parents. As for the other wing, there are two types of rights, natural rights and legal rights, such as the United Nations enshrining that legal right for children. For more details on both types of rights, please click here for Them Before Us’s explanation.
Katy has appeared on hundreds of major television, radio, podcast, and news shows across the country and internationally, including an interview with the popular and esteemed Dr. Jordon B. Peterson. (A sample of that interview is here.) Wielding the strength of logic, she can hold her ground against the best opposition on the planet. She also offers us practical insights on how to frame the marriage debate:
What impact has Them Before Us had? Here is a small glimpse into their influence:
In fact, Katy’s arguments are so powerful that on Mother’s Day 2026, the Left-wing Seattle Times published a front-page hit piece. For Katy’s response, please click here. For how FPIW defended Katy and Them Before Us, please click here.
Here is the broader team at Them Before Us, each of whom has their own irreplaceable role in making the mission a reality: Jennifer Friesen is the Training Director; Mary Kovach is the Administration Director; and Patience Sunne is the Engagement Director. Executive Director Josh Wood is also a first-rank writer who has published an impressive number of essays defending marriage and biblical values. (Click here for his Substack.)
Katy now has expanded her voice by starting Greater Than, a coalition of 55 (and growing!) national and state organizations united to overturn the Obergefell (2015) ruling from the U.S. Supreme Court, the ruling that allowed same-sex marriage in the United States. Winning often comes by teamwork, and this coalition is formidable. (See their promotional video here.)
In addition to defending marriage, Them Before Us is not afraid to speak up on sexual ethics more broadly: against hook-up culture; against no-fault divorce; against abortion; against IVF; and against surrogacy. They are truly one of the most solid, uncompromising, and well-rounded pro-life and pro-marriage organizations in the nation.
If you, too, believe that every child has a need-and-right to be raised by their biological mother and father, whenever possible, you can support Them Before Us by donating online, and by following them on their social media. Katy herself has an impressive and growing following of some 50,000 people on her personal X account alone. Here are the links for Them Before Us: X, Facebook, Substack,Instagram. (Them Before Us confronts sexual depravity, and so we caution readers that some of the material on these links is not suitable for children.)
Additional Resources
Katy’s books and other videos are below. Please click on the image.
